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By: Remembering Domestic Violence Awareness Month - WAHM Forums - WAHM.com

Remembering Domestic Violence Awareness Month - WAHM Forums - WAHM.com — Wed, 13 Oct 2010 14:06:38 +0000

[...] Remembering Domestic Violence Awareness Month Hi All, Just a quick note to remind everyone about the nightmare many women and children live throught each day. Since October is Domestic Violence Awareness month it's a good time to pay close attention to a woman who might be in this kind of situation. I've been there so I know how horrible and crippling it can be. I got out but many are still stuck. They need help and encouragement from fabulous women like you. I posted an article about it on my blog about what it takes to get out from my own personal experience. You are welcome to read it. How I Escaped Domestic Violence Through Financial Empowerment [...]

By: Rich Single Momma

Rich Single Momma — Wed, 13 Oct 2010 11:13:12 +0000

@Shannon Thanks so much for your comment. So many women can relate to my post and have been strong enough to come out of abusive situations. The courage to leave is a sign of the strength all women have. In this life we all can make choices that will either advance our lives or keep it stuck in endless cycles of pain. Thank you for sharing a part of yourself with the other readers.

@Lucille Good for you for finding the strength, if not for yourself then for your children. Keep teaching them what it means to be a strong woman. They don’t have to carry to world but they must carry themselves in a world that can so easily beat them down. Kudos to you!

By: Rich Single Momma

Rich Single Momma — Wed, 13 Oct 2010 11:08:57 +0000

Lucille,

You are welcome to add this post to your blog. Thank you for asking and being willing to share it with your readers.

By: Lucille Tyler Baldwin

Lucille Tyler Baldwin — Wed, 13 Oct 2010 10:58:39 +0000

Hi again Samantha,

Would you mind if I add your post to my blog and forward it with a link to your site? I would love for my followers/vistors to read your post.

[email protected]

Thanks
Lucille Tyler Baldwin

By: Lucille Tyler Baldwin

Lucille Tyler Baldwin — Wed, 13 Oct 2010 02:23:57 +0000

Hi Samantha,

What a powerful and much needed post, your words took me back many years to a very unhappy period in my life. I did not have the courage to leave an unhealthy marriage for myself, but I found the courage to leave for my children. I also taught my daughters to be financially independent. Thank you again for the post and much love and strength to all my sisters of the rainbow. Financial Empowerment is the key to Freedom.

One of my favorite songs by Helen Reddy

“I Am Woman”

I am woman, hear me roar
In numbers too big to ignore
And I know too much to go back an’ pretend
’cause I’ve heard it all before
And I’ve been down there on the floor
“No one’s ever gonna keep me down again”
Oh yes I am wise
“But it’s wisdom born of pain”…

If I have to, I can do anything…

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Wed, 13 Oct 2010 01:06:03 +0000

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By: Shannon Henrici

Shannon Henrici — Wed, 13 Oct 2010 00:44:17 +0000

Thank you for sharing your experiences! I too have suffered in a previous marriage with a verbally abusive husband. But because, I unfortunately suffered at the hands of very abusive parents, it took me awhile to figure out the criticism, fighting, and manipulation were not signs of love. All that you described above happened to me as a child. I was manipulated with money when I didn’t have a chance to even earn any. I had to agree to their views of me in order to survive.

I can say right now, NO ONE EVER HAS THE RIGHT TO TAKE YOUR SENSE OF SELF AWAY! Even if it is your parents. I was never taught to manage money, I believe it was a way to keep me under their control. Money was their expression of love (control).

I won’t ever let my daughter suffer at the hands of anyone who wants to control her or abuse her (I FEEL FOR THE MAN THAT TRIES TO MESS WITH MY FAMILY!) I haven’t survived this type of life by being weak.

The one thing I have learned in life is that at the end of the day, you only have yourself to answer to. Be true to who you are and love yourself. What better example to set for our children. Financially empowered is an area I need to improve, but it will never hold me back. I supported myself after my ex and I divorced with hard work, pure grit and determination. You really find out what you are made of when you go through this type of situation.

I support this cause wholeheartedly and hope women find their voice. If not for themselves, for their children. Don’t let them live in this type of environment. It has taken me years to find myself and some don’t ever break free. It is no way to live.