Comments on: Is Single Motherhood Too Glorified? http://richsinglemomma.com/weblog/is-single-motherhood-too-glorified A Wealth Building Blog for Single Moms! Sun, 23 Aug 2009 14:03:24 -0500 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.2 hourly 1 By: Man Benefits? | Single Moms Rock! http://richsinglemomma.com/weblog/is-single-motherhood-too-glorified/comment-page-1#comment-772 Man Benefits? | Single Moms Rock! Sun, 23 Aug 2009 14:03:24 +0000 http://richsinglemomma.com/weblog/?p=1060#comment-772 [...] article on CNN.com kind of ties into yesterday’s post, Is Single Motherhood Too Glorified and let’s me know that there is beginning to be a shift in feminist thinking. I really don’t to [...] [...] article on CNN.com kind of ties into yesterday’s post, Is Single Motherhood Too Glorified and let’s me know that there is beginning to be a shift in feminist thinking. I really don’t to [...]

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By: Rich Single Momma http://richsinglemomma.com/weblog/is-single-motherhood-too-glorified/comment-page-1#comment-767 Rich Single Momma Thu, 20 Aug 2009 19:47:24 +0000 http://richsinglemomma.com/weblog/?p=1060#comment-767 @Montina I concur that the most overlooked are the single moms that fall into the middle class spectrum. I am there and working my way out of the club as well. Throughout history the majority single moms, whether because of death, divorce, or dessertion have struggled because they don't have the financial or emotional support as a married woman would. It is basically a status issue but it runs over into a socio-economic issues as well. Thanks so much for your feedback! @Montina I concur that the most overlooked are the single moms that fall into the middle class spectrum. I am there and working my way out of the club as well. Throughout history the majority single moms, whether because of death, divorce, or dessertion have struggled because they don’t have the financial or emotional support as a married woman would. It is basically a status issue but it runs over into a socio-economic issues as well.

Thanks so much for your feedback!

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By: Rich Single Momma http://richsinglemomma.com/weblog/is-single-motherhood-too-glorified/comment-page-1#comment-766 Rich Single Momma Thu, 20 Aug 2009 19:34:13 +0000 http://richsinglemomma.com/weblog/?p=1060#comment-766 @Lisa I appreciate your stance and for providing a different perspective on this issue. It is definitely something to think about. @Lisa I appreciate your stance and for providing a different perspective on this issue. It is definitely something to think about.

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By: Montina Young Fortune http://richsinglemomma.com/weblog/is-single-motherhood-too-glorified/comment-page-1#comment-765 Montina Young Fortune Thu, 20 Aug 2009 19:20:43 +0000 http://richsinglemomma.com/weblog/?p=1060#comment-765 I must say that there are always those that will have and those that will have not. Single parenting is a status NOT an identity and quite frankly, I would like to see society disassociate struggling and single mom as synonyms. I believe that the single moms that are the most overlooked are the single moms that make strong salaries, have worked hard to move ahead, are positive, confident, educated and poised. Instead society tends to glorify the "woe is me" single mom that is struggling to make ends meet. For too many years I wore the "proud" single momma banner. Now, no more! Although I'm getting out of the club, I am still committed to "Activating Confidence and Inspiring Wisdom" in the single parent family. I must say that there are always those that will have and those that will have not. Single parenting is a status NOT an identity and quite frankly, I would like to see society disassociate struggling and single mom as synonyms.

I believe that the single moms that are the most overlooked are the single moms that make strong salaries, have worked hard to move ahead, are positive, confident, educated and poised. Instead society tends to glorify the “woe is me” single mom that is struggling to make ends meet.

For too many years I wore the “proud” single momma banner. Now, no more! Although I’m getting out of the club, I am still committed to “Activating Confidence and Inspiring Wisdom” in the single parent family.

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By: Lisa Maria Carroll http://richsinglemomma.com/weblog/is-single-motherhood-too-glorified/comment-page-1#comment-764 Lisa Maria Carroll Thu, 20 Aug 2009 15:06:58 +0000 http://richsinglemomma.com/weblog/?p=1060#comment-764 I totally disagree with your stance on this. This is an argument that I've never understood. It makes about as much sense to me as the WSJ article that ran during Obama's run for president. The reporter interviewed Black men who were going to see their probation officers. Those men were angry that everybody was calling Obama Black, but they said that Obama is not really Black because he doesn't understand the "real" struggles of Black men because he doesn't have to report to a probation officer each month, or wear a house-arrest bracelet on his ankle. So, does that mean that your rap sheet determines whether or not you're black? Does a Black man who transcends poverty and a community steeped in a culture of violence no longer Black if he becomes a doctor or lawyer? First of all, SINGLE mom is a marital status, not a socio-economic condition. And that's where the negative stereotypes and images come from. Are married parents who live below the poverty line any less married? Does their income level and inability to provide a nanny or private nurse for their children make them single moms and dads even though they're married? Just like the Black men on parole, there will always be single moms who feel like they are more entitled to wear the crown than others. They'll be the ones singing the 'Your blues ain't like mine' song. But at the end of the day, President Obama, Henry Louis Gates, Danny Glover, Colin Powell, and the likes, are still Black. And all is takes is one run-in with the law for them to get their nigger-wake-up call and remind them. And at the end of the day, celebrity single moms like Brittney Spears, Fantasia, and Taraji P. Henson are still single mothers who have had to endure custody battles and worrying about whether they're doing the right thing by working versus staying at home with their children. And you might say that at least they have the option to choose. But, I once had a married co-worker who got angry with our boss (a single mom) because she was a VP and could afford a nanny, and she couldn't. So there will always be that great divide. I totally disagree with your stance on this. This is an argument that I’ve never understood. It makes about as much sense to me as the WSJ article that ran during Obama’s run for president. The reporter interviewed Black men who were going to see their probation officers. Those men were angry that everybody was calling Obama Black, but they said that Obama is not really Black because he doesn’t understand the “real” struggles of Black men because he doesn’t have to report to a probation officer each month, or wear a house-arrest bracelet on his ankle. So, does that mean that your rap sheet determines whether or not you’re black? Does a Black man who transcends poverty and a community steeped in a culture of violence no longer Black if he becomes a doctor or lawyer?

First of all, SINGLE mom is a marital status, not a socio-economic condition. And that’s where the negative stereotypes and images come from. Are married parents who live below the poverty line any less married? Does their income level and inability to provide a nanny or private nurse for their children make them single moms and dads even though they’re married?

Just like the Black men on parole, there will always be single moms who feel like they are more entitled to wear the crown than others. They’ll be the ones singing the ‘Your blues ain’t like mine’ song. But at the end of the day, President Obama, Henry Louis Gates, Danny Glover, Colin Powell, and the likes, are still Black. And all is takes is one run-in with the law for them to get their nigger-wake-up call and remind them. And at the end of the day, celebrity single moms like Brittney Spears, Fantasia, and Taraji P. Henson are still single mothers who have had to endure custody battles and worrying about whether they’re doing the right thing by working versus staying at home with their children. And you might say that at least they have the option to choose. But, I once had a married co-worker who got angry with our boss (a single mom) because she was a VP and could afford a nanny, and she couldn’t. So there will always be that great divide.

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By: Rich Single Momma http://richsinglemomma.com/weblog/is-single-motherhood-too-glorified/comment-page-1#comment-761 Rich Single Momma Wed, 19 Aug 2009 12:44:32 +0000 http://richsinglemomma.com/weblog/?p=1060#comment-761 [...] Is Single Motherhood Too Glorified? [...] [...] Is Single Motherhood Too Glorified? [...]

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