Relish the thought of not having to answer for your financial decisions. As a single mom you have such autonomy! You do not have to answer to anyone for the decisions you make.
If you have ever been in an abusive or controlling relationship you know what that means. Every purchase you make for the benefit of you and your kids is worry free.
If you decide to save or if you decide to spend it is all up to you. If you get into debt or get out of debt it is all up to you.
Take a moment and really think about it. There is no one to question you or blame you if there is no money in the bank and you don’t have to fight with anyone about balancing the checkbook or taking money out without letting you know.
Money is one of the major reasons for divorce so there is something to be said about separate accounts and a house account.
The point is that you don’t have that hassle and are free to resolve any money issue you have and get settled before embarking on a new relationship.
Just promise me that you will check out his financial history and habits first before committing to a long-term relationship or marriage with him.
Samantha A. Gregory is an author, consultant, and speaker. She’s a single-mom lifestyle, money, and parenting expert featured in The Washington Post, The New York Times, Essence Magazine, HuffPost, ABC News, and Mint.com.
Samantha founded the award-winning RichSingleMomma.com™, the first online magazine featuring personal finance, parenting, and personal development content and courses for single moms.
She aims to inspire women who are ready to thrive and not just survive in their single motherhood journey. Connect with her on Instagram @richsinglemomma.
When I was married, I’d have to hold my breath every time I went to the ATM, wondering if there was anything left. It took me years to overcome that tense feeling whenever I check my bank account now, but since becoming a single mom, I always sigh with relief that it’s exactly what I thought it’d be.
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Thanks for stopping by April. I totally get what you experienced. I had that for a while too. I am looking forward to reading more of your blog and getting to know you too! 🙂
For me it is the inverse, I have made a promise of myself that I will get my finance straight before getting into a new relationship,it is going to be long but as you said I am free to resolved any problèms without having the pressure of someone else.
Thank you Samantha, you do not know how much your blog is helping me on my journey to better myself, thank you again, and may god keep blessing you.