What does that really mean? Does it mean we do not need anyone else? Does it mean we are super women who can take on the world alone with children and the kitchen sink in tow?
Self-sufficiency simply means we are capable of taking care of ourselves in an adequate and meaningful way. It means we can stand on our own two feet and use the resources within to meet the basic needs we have.
However, we still need to ask for help and support from others. We still need to gracefully accept offers of help from family, friends, community agencies, and co-workers.
Self-sufficiency does not mean independence or a “woman-as-an-island” mentality. Is that really the message you want to send your daughters so she can sabotage all her future relationships? Do you want your son to grow up thinking all women are super women and he’s not good for much of anything?
Acknowledging the need for human interaction and assistance is a valid part of being self-sufficient and beautifully whole through this journey of single motherhood.
Samantha A. Gregory is an author, consultant, and speaker. She’s a single-mom lifestyle, money, and parenting expert featured in The Washington Post, The New York Times, Essence Magazine, HuffPost, ABC News, and Mint.com.
Samantha founded the award-winning RichSingleMomma.com™, the first online magazine featuring personal finance, parenting, and personal development content and courses for single moms.
She aims to inspire women who are ready to thrive and not just survive in their single motherhood journey. Connect with her on Instagram @richsinglemomma.
Love your article and totally agree with it – women need to stop being super women and doing everything on their own. That’s not a life and is definitely not enjoying life. This world is made for two. When somebody offers you help – take it. No one will say that you are weak or can’t handle your responsibilities. Next time they need help, you will be there…