Do What You Love

by | Feb 20, 2011

The more you learn about things you’re interested in, the more fresh and fun ideas you’ll have to mull over in your pursuit of your Core Desires. You’ll continually be looking for things to help you be a better parent, salesperson, businessperson, doctor, lawyer, accountant, or PR person. You’ll enjoy learning constantly, and you’ll discover many benefits.

I know a twelve-year-old boy who can tell you the batting averages of all the professional baseball players, yet he can’t recite the names of the four types of clouds that move across our skies. Because he thoroughly enjoys baseball-virtually living, eating, and sleeping it-his constant involvement and immersion in the sport have led him to know a lot about it. And since he isn’t interested in clouds, he’s never made an effort to learn about them. Regardless of how well his teachers have taught him, the concept holds no interest for him.

My own son struggled with his grades in high school. He thought that he must not be very disciplined or smart, even using the term lazy to describe himself. He had a negative self-paradigm regarding learning and discipline, and he gave himself those labels. His grades were the evidence that these labels were accurate. Yet when it came to learning extensive parts for a school play in a short period of time, he excelled.

When the lead in an upcoming school play was suddenly unable to continue, my son was asked to take his part. The other fellow had four months to learn his lines, and my son had just three weeks. Not only did he learn his lines and perfect his role, he excelled at both. This was ample and undeniable evidence that he was both smart and disciplined- and that doing what he loved made it possible. He had to admit that he was smart, and if he wanted to do something badly enough, the discipline was there.

We are all the same way-we lose interest and don’t perform at peak levels if we’re not thoroughly engaged. The more interactions you have with others, the more learning experiences you will have, and the more successful you will be in all areas of your life. You’ll be happier, too. All this will only happen as a result of learning about your Core Desires.

CONTINUOUS LEARNING
Learning, or the lack thereof, has a dramatic impact on all areas of life. By focusing on the things you want to learn about, you can enjoy continuous learning.Many students either drop out of college or flunk out because they are studying things that they have little or no interest in. Often students buy into the idea that their parents, friends, relatives, or counselors know what’s best for them. Maybe they have been told they should become a doctor because their dad was a doctor. Or maybe their mother has said she’d like an attorney in the family. Most advice from well-meaning people is not necessarily wrong, but it is not applicable, as it doesn’t factor in the students’ Core Desires.

One individual I know was sent to college by his parents, although he didn’t really want to go. He was happy with his life, but he faced a big adjustment when all his friends left for college. His father was a factory worker, his mother stayed at home. His dad ran a small evergreen nursery for side income and decided his son should major in landscape architecture so he could join the business upon graduation.

My friend muddled along, but the more he looked into landscape architecture, the less he liked it. Higher math was involved, and he hated the subject. Botany and entomology were required, and he barely passed. Finally he discovered that his Core Desire was to become a journalist. In his mind, it boiled down to changing majors, dropping out, or risk flunking out.

He dreaded telling his parents about his desire to switch majors, but when he finally did, they surprised him by telling him that Journalism was a fine major. They were really telling him that their Core Desire was for him to get a college education.

Thousands of college students switch their majors several times before finally selecting a field they feel, in their heart, is right for them. Their decisions may look like whims on the surface, but they could be something much deeper-the belated discovery of their own Core Desires. Most students follow desires that may register only a 60 to 90 on their Core Desire Scale-and as long as there are no barriers, they proceed on their merry way. But once they come to a hurdle, like a lack of interest or too much homework, they reassess their situation or quit. The lucky ones find and pursue their Core Desire until graduation. The others-if they stay on-either change majors again and again, continuing to muddle through and barely pass, or complete a degree that is easy to get or not one they expect to get a job with. Wouldn’t it be great if everyone could identify their Core Desires before going to college, or at least within the first year? Just think how much time and money would be saved.

The secret to having a happy life, of which learning is an integral part, is to do what you really love and enjoy. This way, you’ll achieve a high level of satisfaction in all areas of your life-at the same time. Others have done it, and there’s no reason you can’t do so as well. Ongoing change makes continuous learning vital and essential, and learning can be very fun and profitable.

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Jack M. Zufelt is a bestselling author and has achieved worldwide recognition for teaching people the true cause of all achievement. His life’s mission is to impart the truth about-and dispel the myths surrounding-success and achievement. Want to achieve better results? How about live a fuller life with more happiness, joy, and satisfaction? Discover Jack’s DNA of Success and live the life you’ve always wanted… Click Here -> http://www.DNAofSuccess.com

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Be More to Do More

by | Feb 19, 2011

Far too many people are trying to do more to be happy instead of trying to be more. Those who seek more peace and happiness in their lives describe what they “do” in a normal day as feeling overwhelmed and unable to get a handle on their lives. When I write the word do on a white board for each activity they perform-from the moment they wake up-within three minutes I have usually written the word do almost a hundred times.

When I show them that their day is already full of “do-do” activity, they understand it’s time to change the daily cycle that steals their peace and happiness. When we discuss why they keep themselves so busy, we often uncover (more…)

Seven Steps to Positive Power

by | Feb 18, 2011

As part of your spiritual refinement, you might seek to eliminate the character flaws that affect your life most negatively and to add as many good traits as possible, since all good traits affect your life positively. Only a clear perception of the exquisite worth of your spiritual traits will cause you to rid yourself of your negative habits and cultivate positive ones. The more negative habits you can weed out, the better your life will become. Some habits may disappear as easily as pressing the delete button on your computer keyboard; others may take years to overcome.

To eliminate the negative and refine your positive traits, follow these seven steps.

1. Identify your spiritual Core Desires.
There is great value in discovering your Core Desires within the spiritual area of life-they are crucial to your happiness and joy. Once you know your Core Desires, you will do what it takes to eliminate your inhibiting attributes or habits. Only if the benefits and rewards are worth it to you will you seek the direction and discipline to make the change, pursuing it until you have overcome the pull of your old ways.

Ask yourself, “If I developed that trait, what would it give me that I am not currently getting?” Clearly define exactly what you expect to gain for each trait you wish to add or eliminate. Be aware that not working on a negative trait means that you have decided keeping that trait has a greater benefit to you. If your Core Desire isn’t at 100 on your Core Desire Scale, you won’t change permanently. If it is, you will persist with enthusiasm and anticipation-even if it takes a lifetime.

For example, suppose your Core Desire is to be highly credible, and to achieve that desire you realize that you must be totally honest. Honesty is one spiritual attribute we would all do well to cultivate. Being deceitful not only costs us our credibility; it costs our society astronomically. Lying is simply not acceptable for you, or to anyone else. When you are completely honest, you never lie, and you just can’t lie and be okay with yourself. Lying is a form of self-abuse-it hurts you, and it hurts others. Honesty is a virtue that we should expect from others-and they should expect from us.

Generally there are three reasons we tell lies. First, and more often than not, we lie to protect ourselves or someone else. Secondly, we lie to make ourselves look good. And finally, we lie to gain in money, possessions, ego, or fame. If someone asks you, “What are you feeling?” or “Why are you so quiet?” you may dread telling the truth because- at the core-you are afraid to be honest and don’t trust that the truth will be accepted. In fact, you may expect to have a negative experience by telling the truth-and so you tell a lie.

If you want to become a person of total integrity but have difficulty telling the truth, ridding yourself of the habit of being dishonest will move you in quantum leaps toward becoming a better person. Justifying the telling of any untruth for some perceived benefit is unacceptable for the person who values integrity. Don’t let anyone tell you that little lies or white lies are not detrimental, because they are. They destroy trust and open the door for bigger lies. In fact, white lies often do more harm than good because others have a hard time trusting people who think that lying in the “right” circumstance is acceptable. Remember that trust is the foundation of all relationships. There are no “white lies.” Lies don’t come in colors.

When I first went into business, several mentors told me that one of the most important things needed to make money is integrity. “If you don’t have integrity, you won’t make it in business.” Not only is this true in business, it is true in all areas of life. Whatever you do, it must be legal, moral, and ethical. You can then soar to any financial, emotional, or spiritual height you desire. With integrity, you will stand out from the crowd, especially the crowd composed of people who can’t be trusted.

2. Acknowledge negative traits for what they are. Stop focusing on the problem, and start focusing your faith and energy on finding a solution.
Being negative or doubting is the same as being faithless. Remember that faith is action out of confidence. If you have little or no faith, you won’t take the action needed to get you out of negative situations, conditions, or behaviors. When you are discouraged, financially stressed, or have marital problems, only proper action during those trying times causes you to make the changes needed.

Where can you find the additional faith needed to be more faithful? You may find it in others who have been there and have successfully faced the same problem or a similar circumstance-and prevailed. Borrow from their faith until you have enough of your own.

Remember that a Success Attitude is that frame of mind that allows you to accomplish whatever you want because you know you can create the opportunity and make it happen.

3. Learn to address and resolve problems.
With every problem you face, you can leave it as it is, change it, or get out and quit. This applies to marriage, business, friendships, and sports. Many people refuse to take responsibility for their lives and are in denial-or uninformed-about the power within them to choose. They believe that their boss, spouse, fate, or circumstances control their lives. The truth is that we all have far more control over our life’s circumstances than we admit. If you can’t change negative people, eliminate them from your life. Negative people are like weeds that choke the flowers and fruits from growing.

What we persist in doing becomes easier because our ability to do increases. How fast you find the solution to your problems is in direct proportion to how much you seek a resolution. If it is a Core Desire, you will persist until you find one.

4. Keep an open mind.
Be nonjudgmental, because judging incorrectly can hurt your future. Reserve your judgment about people until you know all the facts. How we judge others is how we ourselves will be judged. Do you want to be judged kindly, after all your ircumstances are understood? Judging or criticizing is a two-way street-when you don’t judge harshly, you’ll find people not judging you harshly.

When we pass judgment on others, we assume we are better than they are and believe we know the intent of their hearts. No one is any better than anyone else, and we can’t ever know what is going on in someone else’s heart.

When I managed the karate studio, I had an instructor who walked a prospective student and his father through the facility, explaining how great karate lessons would be for the thirteen-year-old. The father was convinced and asked the instructor what option would be best for his son. There was a one-year contract teaching basic skills, a two-year contract, or a three-year contract-each designed to help the student reach a higher belt level and proficiency.

The instructor noticed that the man and his son were wearing worn-out Levis and old shirts and made a judgment about the man’s ability to pay for the more expensive three- year contract. Rather than risk losing the sale, he recommended the one-year contract. The man agreed and wrote a check. When the instructor saw the name on the check, he immediately realized his error. The father was a wealthy and well-known man who could easily have afforded the more expensive plan. In fact, he could have bought the whole studio.

In the 1950s, Kay Starr wanted to sing with a big band. She went to many auditions where unscrupulous men would try to pick up female singers by promising them contracts. After an audition, one man in particular kept trying to talk to her. At first she ignored him, but finally she told him to leave her alone. The man walked away. Immediately several other singers came up to her and excitedly asked her, “What did Glenn Miller want with you?”

A young man with a lot of talent went to an audition for the Grand Ole Opry. But because of his unusual style, the talent scouts turned him down and told him he would never make it as a singer. Elvis Presley went back to Memphis with a broken heart.

In the early 1960s, an American recording studio needed some hits, so they auditioned an act from England. Making a snap decision based on how the boys looked, the executives turned them down. The Beatles returned to England without a contract.

I remember being on a plane when a man was trying to get his suitcase into the overhead storage space above me. He reeked of alcohol. The flight attendant tried to help him and offered to check the bag, but the man became very angry. Cursing loudly he told her to leave him alone. I judged him to be a loser and mumbled something under my breath. Cursing, he told me to mind my own business and then told me where to go. I was ready for an argument, but then he said, “I just found out that my two daughters had a car accident. One of them is dead, and the other is in intensive care, so leave m e alone!” I felt ashamed of myself.

Two young children always went to school in dirty, worn- out clothes, sometimes smelling from not taking baths. At lunchtime these two children would frequently wait until everyone was out of the lunchroom and then rummage through the trash, searching for leftovers. They tried to hide what they were doing, but several of the older boys found them, and ridiculed them.

But some other children, realizing the circumstances of their two classmates, offered to share lunches and snacks, and even conducted a drive to collect new clothes for them. You will be the reason other people feel good about themselves if you make a conscious effort to acknowledge the good in them-the things they frequently don’t see in themselves. Make it part of your life’s mission to bring sunshine and light to everyone with whom you come in contact. It’s a wonderful way to live, and it creates love and success in our own life.

5. Remember that growth is a patience-testing, step-by- step, lifetime process, and adversity is part of it.
When children are learning to walk, first they teeter and fall and try again. Each attempt moves the child a little closer to the Core Desire. The more effort you expend to correct a shortcoming, the faster you’ll dispatch it. If it is a Core Desire, you’ll find you can change your characteristics or acquire new ones quickly. It may take considerable time and practice for these new characteristics to become second nature to you, but if it is a 100 on the Core Desire Scale, you will pursue it to the best of your ability and eventually refine it to perfection.

Changing the way you react to adversity is also a worthwhile endeavor. This is especially true if you’ve been- by your own admission and by the observation of your family, friends, or business associates-reacting unrealistically or badly. If you freeze when adversity strikes because you don’t know what to do, find a mentor who can give you direction and tell you the proper action to take. Indecision is deadly to both your emotional and your spiritual well-being. Taking proper action is the best way to stop worrying about adversity.

Does this mean you won’t get discouraged, afraid, have your feelings hurt, or even get angry because of some of the curves life throws at you? Of course not. You’ll experience all of these and more. Be faithful, and take action to help you through the trials.

You must understand and accept that problems, barriers, and even major disasters are a part of life. It is up to you to decide to deal with them, just as you would do if you were to break your arm. If you learn to roll with the punches and ask for help, your adversities will be easier to overcome.

Some adversities may take longer to recover from than others. But good almost always comes from adversity. If you have trouble accepting this, seek others who have dealt with similar hardships, and find out how they coped. In every adversity, there is the seed of an equal or greater benefit.

Whenever you’re called upon to handle adversities, realize that you’re not alone. People throughout the ages have faced many things with God’s help.

There is adversity that you choose, and there is adversity that chooses you. With the adversities you choose, you either don’t mind them or you prepare as needed so you can handle them as well as possible. You may choose to start a strict diet so that you can lose weight, increase your mobility, and enjoy more physical activities with your children.Or you may decide to get into shape so you can run a ten-mile race to raise money for breast cancer, even though running ten miles can be hard and painful.

The situation changes dramatically when adversity chooses you. Because you are no longer in control, and there are no expected benefits, you can’t see where and when the hardship will end or what the benefits are.

When we choose adversity, the hardship is acceptable because we know what is required, as well as the rewards. However, when adversity chooses us, we complain, worry, fear, and even get angry, because we cannot readily see what we stand to gain.

The antidote for both types of adversity is trust. If you trust in yourself you can endure any situation and take proper action to achieve the best outcome possible. Taking proper action in conditions of adversity involves identifying the problem, recognizing its impact, considering solutions, focusing your resources, implementing the solution, assessing how well the solution is working, and making any necessary course corrections. When you start taking proper action, you start feeling better. Knowing that every cloud has a silver lining may not make you happy when you are in the middle of a raging storm, but the benefits of the hard times that choose you are very real. Sometimes only hindsight can give you this perspective.

We all have an incredible capacity to endure tough times. You must realize that many people have dealt with similar situations and not only survived but also come away from misfortune much stronger and wiser. Trust that this will happen to you, too.

Some of the most marvelous discoveries and scientific advances were made by accident or mistake. The use of penicillin to treat infections is just one example. If those people had concentrated on the problem rather than on the solution, they would never have made the breakthrough discovery.

Some of the most amazing stories only surface after people have faced enormous odds. Lorenzo, a five-year-old boy, contracted a rare, deadly disease, adreno leuko dystrophy (ALD). His parents were told that Lorenzo had just two years to live, but driven by a desire to save their son, they researched the disease and succeeded in finding an effective treatment. Their story was made into a movie, Lorenzo’s Oil.

There is only one time when an adversity is absolutely devoid of any benefit or gift: the moment when you refuse to see the benefit. Accept the gifts that adversity brings you, and you will be richly rewarded.

6. Call upon a higher power.
Everywhere I go in the world, most people tell me that involving God, or a higher power, in their spiritual life is important to them. Most people have a deep and personal belief in God. Spirituality should not be overlooked as a source of guidance, enlightenment, and help.

There will be times when you cannot find the strength to overcome a problem by yourself, and it seems that nobody else can help you either. There will be times when you can’t find the answers, and you turn to God. Though you may not understand the methods and purposes of God, if you trust God, you will always have a sense of peace and joy. God always stands ready to help you achieve whatever good you want in this life.

7. Learn and obey the spiritual laws and principles.
There are irrevocable laws that govern every realm, be it chemistry, math, music, interpersonal relationships, or parenting. As we learn the laws that govern our Core Desires, we may then obtain the blessings and benefits associated with them. Obedience to these laws will always bring the desired results, just as adherence to any proven formula or recipe does.

Failure to apply these laws and truths will keep you from obtaining the benefits that are waiting to be enjoyed. For example, if you fail to water your houseplants, they will turn brown and die, or if you water them too much, they will turn yellow, then die. Knowing just the right amount of water to apply will help them thrive. Similarly, you must learn, and then obey, the laws that govern your Core Desires.

Learning eternal truths and obeying eternal laws have greatly enhanced my ability to have a close relationship with my wife, to have open and rewarding relationships with my children, to earn enough money to live the way I want, and to be very happy. And I am still learning-this is what makes life so exciting.

I know people who are very rich and have many fine possessions, and yet are miserable because they have failed to obey the laws that govern happiness. Some even turn to drugs, alcohol, or suicide to escape. Money and material possessions will not bring you happiness in life. The richest blessings are within the spiritual arena. However, increasing your spirituality can bring you riches, if you seek riches for the right reasons and are obedient to the laws that govern the creation of wealth.

If attaining higher self-esteem is one of your Core Desires, learn to “Love thy neighbor as thyself.” There is a reason why God wants us to love ourselves as well as our neighbors. Loving yourself means doing what’s best for you, taking care of yourself in all areas of life. You’ll eagerly learn truths that will help you be happier; you’ll fill your time with good things that uplift and enhance your life. Learn as many truths as you can so you can enjoy the benefits and blessings they bring. If having more faith is one of your spiritual Core Desires, consider the question, faith in what or in whom? God? Yourself? Others? You’ve got to want what faith will bring you.

In the Bible, God invites people to pray over their flocks. Some would say, “But I don’t have any flocks.” I don’t have flocks of animals either, but I do have a wife, children, and a business. So I pray over these things as my flock. I ask for help in every aspect of my life, especially my marriage and my family. When you add prayer to your Conquering Force, you have the two most powerful forces in the entire universe working in your behalf.

I’ve mentioned some possible traits, habits, characteristics, and attributes you may wish to change or improve upon. I’ve also touched upon others you may wish to add. Make the spiritual side of you a priority. Learn the laws and truths that govern the attainment of your Core Desires, keep refining your thinking, feeling, and motivation, and you will experience life more fully. As we seek refinement, we grow, and in growing we become more. This is an ongoing process that will help us to become all that is in us to become.

Author’s Bio

Jack M. Zufelt is a bestselling author and has achieved worldwide recognition for teaching people the true cause of all achievement. His life’s mission is to impart the truth about-and dispel the myths surrounding-success and achievement. Want to achieve better results? How about live a fuller life with more happiness, joy, and satisfaction? Discover Jack’s DNA of Success and live the life you’ve always wanted… Click Here -> http://www.DNAofSuccess.com

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A Life Worth Living

by | Feb 17, 2011

To achieve your Core Desires-whether they are earning more money, enjoying more intimacy, or having more joy in your life-you need to grow, become more, learn, and change. How fast you grow is within your control; you can experience great growth if you desire it. But you can’t just sense a need to change; you can’t “sorta” want to be more or have more. If you are willing to grow, life as you have known it will never be the same.

If you choose to grow, you accept the fact that you are not helpless or unable to create the happiness you want in your life. Neither are you limited in your options. What will limit your growth is the inability to identify accurately your Core Desires and unleash your Conquering Force.

TWO LAWS OF ABUNDANT LIVING
Be willing to become all that is within you to become. Be willing to change, trust, risk, and create opportunities where none existed before.

1. Be willing to learn and grow.
If you are willing to learn and grow, you become more and have more. You will need to learn and grow in order to make the changes you desire in your circumstances.

2. Be open and honest with yourself and others.
Have past experiences made you fearful or closed? Do you play games with others? Are you totally honest with yourself? Finding your Core Desires is the place to start .To discover your 100s, you must be honest.

To initiate change, you must first accept that who you are and what you have today are largely consequences of the choices and decisions you have made. Instituting change requires that you make different choices now-and in the future. Acknowledge that you always have choices and that you control the choices you make. To make different decisions, you must change yourself-not just the things you do or say, but also what you have your heart set on.

Lasting, dynamic personal growth takes place within your heart. If you can change your heart, you can change your destiny. You may not experience immediate growth just because you accept a truth in your mind; you must also feel it in your heart. Only a Core Desire can cause you to take action on a truth you have mentally accepted. Saying, “I know I should do that,” will not bring about change and
growth, but wanting it with all your heart will.

Your mind has the ability to learn and apply what it knows; your heart provides the reason to put the knowledge to work. The best way to change your heart is to replace falsehoods and incorrect paradigms with truths and correct paradigms that you feel strongly about-not just understand. Truths can set you free if you embrace them wholeheartedly. The more truths you learn and embrace, the freer you will become. Many of your obstacles will disappear, and you will overcome all others by using your Conquering Force. We choose if-and how-we grow. Our hearts and our minds are under our control, and we can access and mold them. No one else can do this for us. Our Core Desires and our commitment to truth are the chief sculptors of our lives.

People are like Thoroughbred horses in that they are of great value and capable of great speed. Yet they are often constrained by an invisible rope of their own creation. This invisible rope limits how far and how fast they can run. The rope is our wrong, limiting self-paradigm deep inside-made by poor choices that affect our decisions and activities. Until that rope is cut by a new decision, we are unable to run the race of life unfettered.

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Jack M. Zufelt is a bestselling author and has achieved worldwide recognition for teaching people the true cause of all achievement. His life’s mission is to impart the truth about-and dispel the myths surrounding-success and achievement. Want to achieve better results? How about live a fuller life with more happiness, joy, and satisfaction? Discover Jack’s DNA of Success and live the life you’ve always wanted… Click Here -> http://www.DNAofSuccess.com

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Seven Key Words for Success

by | Feb 16, 2011

These seven words, when used properly, hold the key to finding answers and solutions to every problem, obstacle, or barrier you will encounter. When you are faced with a problem, look at this list to determine what you need to do or be to solve it.

1. Change
To make things different in your life, you have to make one or more changes. Change happens all the time, and there is nothing we can do about it. Few things in life are static or permanent, and the “status quo” is never permanent. There are only two things in life that never change: truth, and the fact that everything else changes. Regardless of your background, you can become more.

Even when it is forced on us, change is good. We need constant emotional, spiritual, and intellectual stimulation so we can thrive and grow to become all that is in us to become.

If your life is not what you want it to be, let go of what is holding you back, and add to those things that will help you make it the way you want it to be. If everything in our lives is constantly changing, why do we have such a difficult time? Many people resist making changes because they are in a comfort zone. When they look outside and see all the other joys life has to offer, they say they’d like to have them, but not if it means leaving their comfort zone.

Wouldn’t it be wonderful if we accepted change and even planned on it? But change is difficult for many people, primarily because we feel fear, inadequacy, discomfort, worry, or stress. To better view change, we should see it as inevitable. Change should not be feared or resented; it should be seen for what it is-a source of growth.

2. Choice
Life gives us the opportunity to grow. Whether you grow or not is your choice. You can choose to grow and become a happy, spiritual, and emotional giant or stay small. The choices are always yours, and you always have them.

By cultivating the Success Attitude and asking for help from knowledgeable mentors, you can avoid many of the pitfalls in the sidewalks of life. Should you fall in, you’ll climb out with their aid. Your future is not in the hands of fate, your boss, the stars, or your circumstances; it is in your choices-the choices you make to determine your path and your destination.

When you are faced with a situation in which you are not happy or not getting what you want, ask yourself, “What am I doing to cause this?” and “What do I have to change in me, about me, or around me to make it the way I want it to be?” Most things that happen to you are either a direct or an indirect result of choices you make.

3. Truth
Only truth properly applied will free you from the bondage that ignorance and limited paradigms create. Are truth and being open and honest the same thing? Even though telling the truth is being honest, few are totally open with all the truth. When we conceal our real feelings, we’re not being open; we are only telling part of the story and not being totally honest. Truth can be obscure if you are not looking for it, but when you have truth as your operating system, you’ll stop giving other people or circumstances the power to control your life. You must own the role you play in your circumstances by acknowledging that the truth will free you to make the necessary changes to get what you want.

4. Trust
For a truly fulfilling life, trust is essential. You need to trust your mentors, your instructors, your spouse, your doctor, and your boss. Most importantly, you need to trust your own ability to learn, and trust that choosing to make changes will be beneficial.

Many people don’t take action because they don’t trust that it will make a difference. They don’t trust that other people will care. But trust gives you the confidence to take action, and it is the cornerstone of all relationships. If you don’t trust others for fear of being hurt, your growth will be severely limited .

Trust comes from making the decision to trust. Although many people feel that trust has to be earned, my motto is to trust everyone until I have reason not to. If someone breaks my trust, then it is difficult for me to know when to decide they can be trusted again. But when, or if, it ever happens, it still involves another decision to trust.

5. Ask
To get what you want you must be willing to ask. It is amazing how many people simply will not-or cannot-ask for what they want or need. Sometimes we feel selfish for asking for what we want or need, or we’re embarrassed or afraid it will cause problems. Many times we find it difficult to ask for help of any kind, including candid feedback, because of pride or ego. For too many people, asking for direction implies they have either lost their way or are unaware of what to do. Asking for solutions to our problems means admitting we have problems in the first place.

But we should all learn that asking for help and direction is not a sign of weakness; it is the quickest way to get what you want-from your spouse, your friends, and God.

6. Decide
If you want things to be different in your life, you must decide to make changes. Action is the direct result of making a decision. Sometimes we are afraid to make decisions because we aren’t sure of the outcome, but deciding to postpone-or refusing to make-a decision is still a decision. To make good decisions, you must gather information from reliable sources and then decide which of the choices will best suit you and your situation. Some decisions turn out to be wrong, and others don’t give you the results you were counting on. Therefore, some decisions need to be revisited, and you must make course corrections. With the help of mentors, you can decide to choose which way is best for you to achieve your Core Desires. Once you settle on a plan of action, there may still be doubts and obstacles in your way, but to keep from wavering back and forth, simply choose to go for it. If it is a Core Desire, you will make the necessary decisions until you overcome all hurdles.

7. Risk
Our fear of taking risks nips many good ideas in the bud and kills many hopes and dreams. But we have to recognize that to venture out on any new path involves taking a risk. Don’t let your fear of risk debilitate you. People who risk little, grow little. If you truly have a Core Desire, you will face the risk at all costs-and you will learn and grow. When you are struggling with a situation and find yourself stuck and not knowing what to do, where to go, or whom to turn to, make use of these seven words to help you assess where you need to go. In every situation, you hold the key to your own happiness. Only you can make things different and better. How fast-or how much-is up to you, but both are controlled by your Core Desires.

To create as much success, joy, and happiness in your life as you want, you must know your Core Desires, unleash your Conquering Force, and know that you can-given time-learn whatever you want to learn, create your own opportunity, and overcome all obstacles. You already hold the key to your success in your Core Desires. No outside tools, tactics, techniques, or methodologies have the power or capability to make you achieve success in any area; only your heart-set can do that. When you understand and follow this principle, you will experience the promised blessings.

Your ability to create success and happiness lies within your heart. Your success will always be a direct result of discovering your Core Desires. When you discover your Core Desires and unleash your Conquering Force, you will be successful in any endeavor. You will be able to create and live a life that is full of joy and satisfaction.

Indeed, the truth shall make you free.

Author’s Bio

Jack M. Zufelt is a bestselling author and has achieved worldwide recognition for teaching people the true cause of all achievement. His life’s mission is to impart the truth about-and dispel the myths surrounding-success and achievement. Want to achieve better results? How about live a fuller life with more happiness, joy, and satisfaction? Discover Jack’s DNA of Success and live the life you’ve always wanted… Click Here -> http://www.DNAofSuccess.com

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